It’s a world of equality out there and that applies as much to dating as anything else. If a date is to be a success and be the starting point of a serious relationship, women have to put in as much, if not more effort than men and also to take responsibility for their own actions. So here are a few dating tips for women that will get you started on the right note.
Keep in mind that everyone has baggage from the past and allowing your past to affect how you behave on a date is a sure way to ruin the evening – forget the past, this is now. And even if the past does not affect your mood, do not let yourself speak badly about your exes – no man wants to hear about what losers men are and your current date will also wonder if he will be spoken of in the same way if things do not work out, even if it’s not his fault.
Keep your personal problems to yourself, at least in the beginning – men have a set concept of what is romantic and what is not and talking about your stomach problems or how you can’t use public restrooms will destroy any chance of his viewing you as the object of his affections. While being open and honest is a good thing, there is a time and place for it and the first few dates are not the time to start confessing your personal flaws and irritating character traits – there will be time enough for this as the relationship develops.
Be careful of how much you drink – getting drunk is a big turn off for the guys, unless his intensions are less than honorable. Also, if you do get drunk, not only will you not be able to recall what you did on your date (that could leave you open to all kinds of pressures) but you will not have been able to watch his behavior for things you like (or perhaps dislike).
You don’t have to fill up every pause in the conversation with chatter – natural gaps in the conversation can be a time to observe body language and notice the small things you overlooked before and it can also be a time for a sexy meeting of the eyes. Know that there nothing wrong in a woman making the first move to get a date but after that it’s a mistake to make a man think he is being chased – it makes him feel he is not in control and can also seem to be a reflection on his masculinity.