Oh, that winsome smile and that provocative flip of the hair. The hand on the belt and the sparkling eyes or the tiny twist of a smile that dances along the lips which leads a person to think you are interested or that you are interested in them. These are things that are so subtle that many people are clueless. But learning how to flirt is important. It is a rite of passage that all young men and women must master if they want to attract the mate of their dreams. And even those that already have mates use flirtation to keep the interest and feelings alive. But do you know how to flirt? You may think that a quick come on line works but you are probably wrong. This article can help you master your flirtation game and teach you some of the basics of flirting.
Is there a difference between a man and a woman knowing how to flirt?
Men and women are different and so flirting is going to be different if you are a man or if you are a woman. Men tend to be more direct in their flirting. Women tend to flirt innocently and deliberately keep their flirtations light. Men tend to be heavier with the flirting. But at the same time a woman knows more often when someone is flirting with her than a man does. It probably all goes back to the hardwiring of the brain. But there is a difference and one that you must take into account.
When someone is learning how to flirt, how do you spot the signals in an interested woman?
Some people, men and women alike, can flirt and have no intentions with the person. But if you are learning how to flirt you still need to know when a woman is interested in you. You already know the signs that you should be giving out but now you need to know how to read her signs. The first is just like a man’s: body language. If she is turned in to face you and is leaning in…she is interested. Watch for her to flick her hair or play with it. Also pay attention to what her eyes are doing. If she is speaking to you but is constantly looking around the room then she is not that into you. She is scouting out other people and will probably be making an exit soon. So that is your cue to move on to someone more receptive. Another big hint in an interested woman is her casually touching you. An interested woman will find a reason to touch your hand or your arm.
I know there is a difference in knowing how to flirt and how to be sleazy but what is the fine line?
Knowing how to flirt and being sleazy can sometimes get mixed. You may be giving off the right body language but saying inappropriate canned lines. Pick up lines only work in the movies. Sure, that line may be so old your grandfather and grandmother used it and it may get a laugh but you want the person to think you are being sincere. A sleazy pick up line is not going to do that. Be genuine in your conversation and in your movements. Do not unbutton your shirt down to your navel and expose your body parts. That is crossing into sleaze town. Try to keep the conversation at a simmer rather than boiling over with sexual innuendos. That is how you keep from being sleazy.
Why are some people natural flirts and others have to know how to flirt?
That is a great question and unfortunately there is no great answer. The truth of the matter is that knowing how to flirt naturally is just like being able to speak naturally in front of others. Some people are just born with that confidence. And confidence is truly the key. The more confident in yourself you are, the more it exudes outwards. You could be holding a boring conversation but be giving off flirtatious signals without knowing it. That is not necessarily a bad thing. But for those that do not know how to flirt naturally they have to learn how to exude that confidence and likeability.